Comments on: On balance, a pretty nice dilemma to have http://allthatcomeswithit.com/archives/109 Fri, 21 Nov 2008 10:54:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/ By: Virginia W. http://allthatcomeswithit.com/archives/109#comment-123 Virginia W. Mon, 04 Sep 2006 03:47:00 +0000 http://allthatcomeswithit.com/?p=109#comment-123 We have a similar style in our family, and both my husband and I enjoy giving our 19 month-old daughter our undivided attention every possible moment. We trust her to tell us when she wants to play on her own. She feels she can do whatever she needs to do, so when she desires alone time, she takes it. She will go into another room, and do her thing. She usually comes to check on us. You know, to see if we are okay without her. We have a similar style in our family, and both my husband and I enjoy giving our 19 month-old daughter our undivided attention every possible moment. We trust her to tell us when she wants to play on her own. She feels she can do whatever she needs to do, so when she desires alone time, she takes it. She will go into another room, and do her thing. She usually comes to check on us. You know, to see if we are okay without her.

]]> By: Deb http://allthatcomeswithit.com/archives/109#comment-121 Deb Wed, 30 Aug 2006 09:18:00 +0000 http://allthatcomeswithit.com/?p=109#comment-121 I think it's wonderful that you and Amy have so much fun together. I also think this is going to work itself out, as Greg said. When the new baby gets here, things are going to change tremendously. It'll be much easier than last time in one way, and yet much more challenging because of having two. Amy will spend more time playing alone by necessity. And as she becomes more independent, you can start over with the new child. You and Kerry just have to keep having children forever, and then no problem! I think it’s wonderful that you and Amy have so much fun together. I also think this is going to work itself out, as Greg said.

When the new baby gets here, things are going to change tremendously. It’ll be much easier than last time in one way, and yet much more challenging because of having two.

Amy will spend more time playing alone by necessity. And as she becomes more independent, you can start over with the new child. You and Kerry just have to keep having children forever, and then no problem!

]]> By: Greg http://allthatcomeswithit.com/archives/109#comment-120 Greg Wed, 30 Aug 2006 07:26:00 +0000 http://allthatcomeswithit.com/?p=109#comment-120 I've had similar thoughts about my own kids. However, I believe the only person at risk in this situation is you, Dan. I'm pretty sure you've read more texts on human development than I ever will. So you know from the moment she was born, Amy has begun the slow, subtle process of leaving you and Kerry in the dust. In a few years, she will make choices for conversation, play, consolation, validation, etc. that have absolutely nothing to do with you. This process is going to practically kill you at times (I know it does me). Amy, on the other hand, won't have too much trouble with it at all. You already know it's coming. We both do. One glance at our blog archives is enough evidence to convict us both. I say give the kid as big a dose of daddy as possible. It's the least you can do. . . for yourself. Whoa. That was depressing. You should write more about strippers, hookers and meth labs. Like we do. I’ve had similar thoughts about my own kids. However, I believe the only person at risk in this situation is you, Dan.

I’m pretty sure you’ve read more texts on human development than I ever will. So you know from the moment she was born, Amy has begun the slow, subtle process of leaving you and Kerry in the dust. In a few years, she will make choices for conversation, play, consolation, validation, etc. that have absolutely nothing to do with you.

This process is going to practically kill you at times (I know it does me). Amy, on the other hand, won’t have too much trouble with it at all.

You already know it’s coming. We both do. One glance at our blog archives is enough evidence to convict us both.

I say give the kid as big a dose of daddy as possible. It’s the least you can do. . . for yourself.

Whoa. That was depressing.

You should write more about strippers, hookers and meth labs. Like we do.

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